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My Own Worst Enemy: Part I

Posted by Dr. Becker Monday, February 21, 2011

Everyone has experienced periods of self-doubt and that nagging question, "Am I good enough?" People with low self esteem are often their own worst enemy. They often feel that they are not good enough, and have many other negative thoughts about themselves.

What is self esteem?
Everybody has a self esteem. Self esteem is one’s general evaluation and feeling about oneself, and can be positive or negative. Self esteem is also referred to as self-image or self-worth. It is natural to have self doubt and insecurity from time to time. This does not necessarily mean that you have low self esteem. There are many things that influence and are influenced by self esteem, such relationships, body image, and performance. The extent to which a person values each of these domains will determine how much they affect self esteem. For example, a person may place a lot of value on relationships and a smaller amount on performance. This person’s self esteem may suffer more after a rejection from a friend than from failure on a test. Cultural and family values often impact an individual’s values.

Self Esteem…Fact and Fiction
MYTH: Less accomplished people have lower self esteem than people with many accomplishments.
FACT: Research shows that self esteem is not based on circumstance. Many successful, attractive people have low self-esteem
MYTH: People who have had a good childhood, supportive family, and friendships should not have a low self-esteem.
FACT: Self esteem is complicated and is influenced by many factors. While self-esteem can be influenced by family interactions, individuals with good family and peer support can struggle with low self esteem.
MYTH: People with low self esteem are always shy and withdrawn.
FACT: While low self esteem can cause people to withdraw socially, it can create an opposite reaction for others. Some people may act out with aggression or try to show off to impress others. Additionally, others work hard to hide their low self esteem and show others that they are just fine.

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